{"id":1114,"date":"2014-06-01T07:24:40","date_gmt":"2014-06-01T07:24:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/brainyacademyny.com\/parkslope\/?p=1114"},"modified":"2015-02-11T07:30:00","modified_gmt":"2015-02-11T07:30:00","slug":"help-child-overcome-shynesspart-2-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brainyacademyny.com\/parkslope\/help-child-overcome-shynesspart-2-2\/","title":{"rendered":"How to help your child overcome shyness(part 2 of 2)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<p>How to help your child overcome shyness (part 2 of 2)<\/p>\n<p>This is part 2 of the post, to read part 1 first please click <a href=\"http:\/\/www.brainyacademyny.com\/help-child-overcome-shyness-part-1-2\/\">here.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Tip 4:\u00a0 Don\u2019t speak for your child<\/p>\n<p>This is a hard one for me.\u00a0 Some days my personality borders on that of a cheerful pit bull which means staying in the background and allowing my child to speak for himself or more importantly allowing my child to choose not to speak means that at times I have to physically bite my tongue.\u00a0 Yet psychologist after psychologist recommend that you suppress the tendency to speak for your child and allow him or her to respond.\u00a0 In essence if you are responding for them, they will never do so for themselves.\u00a0 So the next time a nice grandma in an elevator asks your child how old he is, bite your tongue.\u00a0 Don\u2019t answer.\u00a0 Stand there with a big cheesy smile on your face.\u00a0 Yes, the grandmother is likely to think you got a few screws loose.\u00a0 But your child is going to figure out eventually that you will no longer be speaking for them.\u00a0 Which means they must learn to speak for themselves.<\/p>\n<p>Tip 5:\u00a0 Don\u2019t say he is shy<\/p>\n<p>This is another hard one for me personally.\u00a0 After all you want to explain why your child is refusing to respond, go into a classroom or interact with a peer.\u00a0 But to offer this kind of an explanation is a mistake.\u00a0 If the stranger is a teacher they will already know why your child refuses to interact in a class, no explanation needed.\u00a0 If the stranger is a child they will instinctively know what\u2019s going on. And if that stranger is just a stranger you don\u2019t owe them an explanation.\u00a0 By the very statement \u201cShe is shy\u201d you are telling your child that this behavior is expected of them. That they in essence have a disability which requires an excuse.\u00a0 And that they will never learn to interact with strangers.\u00a0 This is of course not the message you intend to send.\u00a0 People who view themselves positively accomplish more.\u00a0 Avoid the temptation to label your child, and bite your tongue.<\/p>\n<p>Tip 6: Involve your child in a team sport<\/p>\n<p>All people fall into two basic categories:\u00a0 Introverts and extroverts.\u00a0 Introverts get their energy from interacting with people.\u00a0 Extroverts recharge their batteries by being alone.\u00a0 There is a continuum for both personality types, with some people falling very far towards extremely introverted and some are falling very far towards extremely extroverted.\u00a0 Your basic personality is in large part determined by genetics although nurture also plays a huge part.\u00a0 Studies show that those children who play team sports from a young age are more likely to be on the less extreme side of the introverted scale.\u00a0 If you think about it, this makes perfect sense.\u00a0 After all being on a team means you have 20 build in potential friends.\u00a0 Being on a team means a sense of camaraderie and a sense of belonging.\u00a0 From personal experience I suggest not jumping from sport to sport but finding one sport the child enjoys, one team and sticking with that one team as long as possible.\u00a0 This allows your child to feel as a part of a large, loud group and will help him become less extreme on the extroversion scale. It will also ensure that your child is less likely to end up lonely.<\/p>\n<p>At Brainy Academy we have found that many young children are shy or timid in new environments, especially if they haven\u2019t attended group classes before.\u00a0 We have developed a unique 6 step process that allows almost every child who comes to us to gently and smoothly transition into the classroom from a primary caretaker (parent, grandparent or nanny).\u00a0 To learn more about this process please read my next post.<\/p>\n<p>Viktoria Altman<br \/>\nPresident Brainy Academy<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How to help your child overcome shyness (part 2 of 2) This is part 2 of the post, to read part 1 first please click here. 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